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Unrealogical

In Blog, Coaching, Goals, Peak Performance, Personal Development, Self Help | on 04.06.17 | by | Comments ( 0 )

I am really excited about my new book that is being released this summer and I just wanted to share a little bit about it with you!  Unrealogical – Real People, Remarkable Stories of Transformation is very different from any of my previous books.  It not only offers the theory and information we need to facilitate change in our lives, but then it goes on to share PROOF that the principles actually work in real life!  This book is chock full of stories from real people who discovered how to apply these concepts to their lives to create remarkable transformation. The stories run the whole spectrum – people who tripled their annual income, people who changed careers and started new businesses, people who released weight and took control of their health, people who healed broken relationships and others who walked away from abusive relationships and found their soulmates, people who shared the concepts with their children who went on to achieve amazing things, people who formed philanthropic organizations to help others, people who used this information to achieve amazing athletic feats that defy logic, and so much more!

The cool part about this book is that you’ll not only discover WHAT these people did, but HOW they did it. And if they can do it, so can you!

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In the meantime, here’s a sample story to whet your appetite!

A BIG, CRAZY OLYMPIC DREAM – Millie (as told by Sharon)

From the very start, it was never a question that we would share what we were learning in the coaching program with our kids. We do everything as a family, and this was no different. For our eldest, it was always easy to set goals and stay disciplined in achieving them, so she took to the concepts and systems pretty quickly. Our younger daughter, Millie, however, is much more easily discouraged. She is amazing, but she doesn’t know it. She struggles a lot with logic, and negative self talk, so we have to work with her a lot more to get her to see beyond her ‘bubble’ and look past the everyday curveballs that life throws. Millie lacks the larger perspective to see that the struggles of today do not dictate, predict or predetermine the amazing success of the future. As with a lot of sensitive and passionate kids, little things often affect her in great ways, and it takes a lot of effort to get her out of the funk.

Millie had been swimming competitively since she was very young, age 5. She regularly followed her older sisters’ lead, competing and challenging herself to keep up with everything that her big ‘sister’ could do. When she was 9, she tackled her first long distance race of 1000 yards, something most kids much older never even attempt. She had swam the distance many times before, but this was a race with lots of spectators watching! The buzzer went off, she dove in, and she shot ahead of the competition, most of them 3-4 years older than her. She did the first lap, then the second, then the third. only 37 left! Soon, we noticed that she was slowing down. She didn’t seem to be breathing correctly, and she was falling behind. The last lap came, and she flopped out of the pool, hyperventilating and in a state of shock it seemed. She had just sprinted a 1000 yard race. She was crying, couldn’t breathe, and physically sick for the rest of the day. The emotional impact of that one experience completely changed her belief about her own swimming limitations and what she could and could not accomplish. Millie was convinced that if she swam fast enough to be that competitive, she would get physically sick, hyperventilate, and possibly even pass out. She was physically scared to compete at that level again. At her next meet, she didn’t even finish half of the distance, started crying, and got out of the pool in tears. Her fear started taking over to the point that she was ready to let her young and promising swimming career fall apart. Luckily, this happened right around the time we discovered this material, and we began to understand that logic alone was holding her back. We needed to help her tackle this here and NOW and get through this. Deb’s tools and exercises were going to be the key.

One of her big goals was to earn a spot on a very competitive, very prestigious, USA elite swim team. She would bring it up from time to time, but every time she had a reason why she wasn’t going to make the cut. She tried to pretend like it wasn’t that big a deal, but I knew how much it meant to her. The old me would have tried to argue with her and explain the logic away. Instead, I took a different approach. We used the internet to learn and see everything we could about the past teams. We hung out every night in that world… and lived “as if”. She found that she loved the gear for the team and that became her motivation. She went to bed every night imagining being on the bus with her new teammates and getting her new team suit, jacket, and team gear. We don’t ask our kids to write out their Imagineering on paper, but that’s what she was doing. In her head, she was already on that team, already a competitive enough swimmer to be at that level. As time went by, everything she was imagining started to become her reality. She was feeling the joy of being on that team before she even achieved it! Then we sat in bet at night imagineering the perfect starts off the block, the perfect turns, the perfect touch at the wall. Boom! Her swimming improved. Her confidence soared. She created one success after another and at the end of the season, she finished being a nationally ranked Top 6 swimmer in her age group for distance, New England champion in multiple events, set a new swim club record and was the only one on her local team who made it onto that dream team.

Even after this huge success though, her journey wasn’t over. She would still let logic get in the way. She set her expectations so high that every time she didn’t succeed with flying colors, she thought she had failed. As a result, she almost quit swimming all together this past summer at age 12. So, instead of trying to talk her out of it, we had her start an affirmation book, to change her thoughts and overcome her biggest fears, while helping her find her true joy in swimming. She had to write out all of her worst fears then turn the page and write out the exact opposite of each and every one. We had started to see a pattern. She would push herself until she fell apart and then set up the failure in her mind as the end all, be all of her abilities. Now, the three of us are developing a pattern of success for her to build on as she works towards her bigger, more “unrealistic” dreams. Basically, what we’re trying to teach her is that the dream has to be crazy, but the steps getting there should be realistic and attainable and should ultimately bring you joy. Now she focuses more on helping her friends rather than worrying about herself and how she has “failed.” She found a positive feeling to attach to her pursuit instead of that nagging feeling of failure. She is now on track to go to nationals even though she’s younger than most of her competitors. Her big, crazy dream is to make it to the Olympics. She is on her way there. Even more important though, we know that she will find joy on her path to the Olympics, because she has found the fun in swimming again. Instead of pushing herself to tears, she wakes up in the morning knowing that she is doing what she loves every single day. That internal, God given, drive to dream with “No Limits’ has been saved. Logic will always try and take control, try to squash her dreams… but she now has a new experience, new feelings, and new life long tools to change those negative thoughts into positive, creative, inspiring ones that will yield amazing, blessed, joyful feelings. Thanks Deb!

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